This is a topic that I don't talk about often on my blog, but it's one that is completely unavoidable in the world. Is sex better when there is an attachment to the other person? If you are in love with the other person does that make average sex better because you are in love? Can sex with a random partner also be fulfilling or does it leave you hoping for more?
While I can't answer these questions for everyone, I know myself pretty well and I know that without attachment sex is mundane. It gives you want you want for the moment and then when the moment is gone you feel more empty than you did before. It doesn't necessarily have to be love to make it good, but an emotional attachment of some sort definitely helps. I learned for myself that the kiss is extremely important. Have you ever kissed someone and had fireworks instantly ignite? Not just any old kiss, a kiss that has passion and emotion behind it, one so powerful that it dwarfs the sex that follows. I felt that and then I lost it, and I want to have it back. It's like what you hear about a drug addict and how once they get there first high they continue taking drugs to try to achieve that first high all over again. Personally I know I have been in love twice so far in my life, and I don't regret either time. You grow and you learn from love and from the experience surrounding it. Being in love makes average sex phenomenal and while I can't turn the clock backwards I will carry those experiences to the grave with me whenever that may be.  ¶ 3:41 PM